Recently I had a moment of clarity. Hopefully it lasts.
In the good times in my last relationship I gradually learnt over time to open up to games. Get immersed with them. I found laying on bed in the dark with them meant I could put my headphones on and know they'd be there when I came out of that world. Sometimes I'd cry with sadness, sometimes I'd cry with relief or joy and have a cuddle.
That was important to me. I struggle to switch my mind off if I'm on my own at my desk, and knowing he understood what I was going through helped a lot. I don't trust anyone else to understand and I feel sad at that, but at least there's someone. So if you have at least one person who makes you feel comfortable playing something then give them a hug or message sometime :).
But the point of this entry isn't just that. It's that I've learnt there's no shame to play a game and love the characters and quotes and what you do in the game itself. There's no shame to be obsessed with the storyline, play style and characters. Overall it is the sane as any other hobby.
That's something I've always struggled with; feeling ashamed and guilty if I love something enough to develop feelings and/or an obsession over it. It's distracted me from remembering much of something and concentrating on it. Believing there's no point getting too involved.
Maybe over time I'll be able to learn to love games etc without having someone around who understands, or someone I can talk enthusiastically about what we loved and disliked etc about it. But for now, I appreciate I am starting to see and believe and love. It is making me more confident too.